7 lessons 7 months post-uni

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lessons after uni

// time is of essence – spend it wisely
working mon-sat barely leaves me time to do much else. it requires mental fortitude to spend the little time I have left in a meaningful and productive way.  my main impetus is my fear of becoming one of those people whose lives are just the corporate so i decided to actually write (+ blog) and pursue my passions no matter how tired i am. this explains why i have taken up blogging seriously

tip: make a time log of how you spend your time, and match that up against your goals/aspirations, and from there you will know how to spend your time

// keeping in touch with friends and family has to be intentional
post uni social circles reduce like 90%. most of your peers are trying to settle into a job, are looking for a job, or just minding their life business just as you are, and no, your friends are not forgetting you, they are trying to figure out things as well. i am grateful to have a close knit of about four friends that I can call and talk to. though i realized to meet new people I need to get out of my comfort zone and hang out more

tip: if there is someone whom you know who attends cool events, hit them up and ask them to take you along with them next time there is an event

// yeah, it’s cliché but it’s true comparison is the thief of joy
in the social media age, comparisons blow things out of proportions. scrolling through your feeds, sometimes it feels like the whole world is just doing better than you are but it’s not true.  i’ll conclude this with a fav quote of mine: do not compare your behind the scenes with the highlight reel of others

tip: good things take time. trust your journey

// planning for & budgeting your finances is of paramount importance
it seems like the universe is just waiting for you to start getting your paycheck so that all sorts of bills and needs come to the fore. and if you do not plan, you can barely know where your notes and coins go. trust me, i know – from experience. the only way out is living well below your means and secondary sustainable sources of income

tip: download weekly and monthly budget sheets from the internet or keep a diary of your daily, weekly and monthly expenses and determine where your money goes, what you can eliminate, what you want to spend on

// never stop learning
really, i mean it. i studied 5 years for my career, but among my workmates who have been in the industry for a number of years or decades, with my 5 months experience, i am green to the bone. and not only that i am learning so much about life – about friendship, about love, about being. and this learning means that i have to  unlearn some of the things i have learned through the years. it is also quite possible to learn a skill or two by yourself from youtube tutorials e.g.  photography, coding, design etc

tip: make goals for what you want to learn and focus on that. use you-tube to the max. never stop reading

// take it easy
you will have a roadmap -from work to love to the kind of life that you want to lead – but life takes its own direction. trust me, i know.  i am living at a place i never planned i would because of the job i have, i have met so many people,  formed new relationships, discovered things about myself, and not only that. life has thrown some curveballs my way, and  i am learning that sometimes the best you can do is take it a day at a time, and just let life flow, and discover it as you  go along.  and ask for help if you need help. i am not  a cry baby and have almost always been independent but sometimes all i want is a good cry and to go home to my Mum. and there’s nothing wrong with that

tip: take is easy. no one has life figured out – the best thing you can do is have a flexible mind. be gentle with yourself

// God is still number one
this one makes me smile. because when i joined university in 2011, i thought that finally i could do whatever i want, and for a while it was almost like that. but He has always pursued my heart, my love and He has always won me over no matter how many times i do my own things. and now that i moved to a place that i barely knew anyone, he is there more than ever and everywhere i turn, it’s Him asking for my love, and i realized that above all else, no matter what i do, He is the one my heart desires

 

10 comments

  1. Great insights Daisy! 🙂
    I have had my own share of lessons too.. (speaking from my illusionary point of wisdom having been out longer *ahem* :-P):
    I’ve had to quit my job after well over 2 years because it turned out to be a path I want to take. A job I got before even clearing campus. Am I scared that getting another will be a hustle? Yup, a little. But I guess sometimes life forces you to reboot and think things through.

    1. Wow. That’s a big step. I hope that you get another job. And one that you like. Big up on the courage!!

      2 years is triple my time out here, would like to know what lessons you have learnt that you would add to the list.

  2. Great insights Daisy! :-)I have had my own share of lessons too.. (speaking from my illusionary point of wisdom having been out longer *ahem* :-P):I've had to quit my job after well over 2 years because it turned out to be a path I want to take. A job I got before even clearing campus. Am I scared that getting another will be a hustle? Yup, a little. But I guess sometimes life forces you to reboot and think things through.

  3. Wow. That's a big step. I hope that you get another job. And one that you like. Big up on the courage!! 2 years is triple my time out here, would like to know what lessons you have learnt that you would add to the list.

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