“The secret of becoming a writer is to write, write and keep on writing.”

— Ken MacLeod


“The art of writing is the art of discovering what you believe.”

— Gustave Flaubert

self discipline tips


here are tips I discovered very recently:

  • something is better than nothing. 5 minutes of work are better than zero. Just because you missed something on your schedule doesn’t mean you can’t still work on it, even for 5 minutes. Grow and build on this.
  • second drafts / reviews can be done after.
    • Don’t think you are going to do your very best work on the first try. Take the weight of perfectionism off your shoulders.
  • don’t think about doing it. just do it as fast as you can.
  • build on your productivity, not your failures.
    • If you come from a past of procrastinating and now feel motivated to change and discipline yourself, do NOT try to do everything at once.
    • if you have a set of different goals to accomplish, begin with the most important one. Wait until the rotine of working for that one settles in (you feel productive and comfortable-ish), and then begin with the next. Repeat.
    • this way you’ll be building your way up and not juggling everything at the same time, hoping everything works out.
    • be patient with yourself, you’ll get there!
  • set smaller deadlines for your goals
    • have monthly and weekly-ish deadlines
    • e.g. if you are doing a project, due 22nd Feb, set personal deadlines, like have Introduction written by 2nd Feb, have Methods written by 10th Feb, have project complete by 18th Feb.
    • take them as seriously as you possibly can, don’t miss out on yourself.
    • write realistic daily tasks and don’t stop until you finish them. after them you can do whatever you want
      • on writing realistic daily tasks, the secret is knowing you can only do so much in one day, but trusting you can accomplish everything in the course of any period of time (a week, or 2 weeks or a month, etc.) because you will combine the work from all these different days.
      • it’s very tempting to write down all the tasks you need to accomplish in one day to just get over with it, but the real deal is you won’t accomplish half of them. You’ll feel very unproductive then, wich leads to demotivation.
      • spread daily tasks in the time necessary.
  • have a consistent sleep schedule.
    • if your mind isn’t ready everything will fall apart.
  • have one rest day per week where you plan nothing, do whatever you want except studying. this can be harder than you expect!

(don’t forget these are effective only if you actually put them into practice! good luck babes!!)

A Thank You Note & Some News For You!

When I made the last post on this platform, I was nervous because I was sharing something that is personal and that would show the underlying turbulent currents that I have experienced in my life. I also was not sure if people would connect with it. But guess what? The response was amazing. I was overwhelmed with the feedback. I am very grateful for all those who reached out and told me that they could relate to what I had shared – some even told me that it renewed their hope, it made them want to go on facing their realities because they just like me, were at a point where they were doubting their abilities and the credibility of some of the career choices they have made.
As I write this, the post on my becoming a civil engineer is the most read.
For that, I want to say thank you – to all who read, and shared, and commented on this platform and got back to me through Facebook and private messaging.

While my blog readers took hope from the post, what I realized in this week in between is that people connect to posts that bring value to them. For instance, the post on Internet Finds and Conversation Starters has received positive feedback on the second section – the Lifestyle and Finance section. People wrote me and said – they liked the second part (the Finance Section) because they would like to know how to spend their money right, or that they would like to get more resources on how to make money or spend money.

Or when I talk to friends, and we speak about travel, it always seems like something that has been set aside for later, when they have loads and loads of money to travel and live large. Instead, what I know from experience is that you can travel even within your budget. For instance, the entry charges for locals to the Murumbi Art Gallery is 150 KES for locals. The entry charges to most of our national parks and museums for locals does not exceed 500KES.

Also, severally, even when I was not serious about my blogging, some would tell me that they also have the dream/vision to start blog, or do photography or write, and they do not know how to start or they have started and do not know how to proceed or become better at it, and I would send them links that I had found useful to me. And this still happens to date. Two weeks ago someone asked me if I can be of assistance in helping them set up a blog.

And what I am getting from this – from the feedback and from talking to people is what has made me rethink the direction I want this blog to take. People want to know how they can live large and well and contented within their means. People want a message of hope. People want added value when they visit a site/blog and I want to be someone who creates and gives that added value.

When I started blogging again 10 months ago, I said that the focus of my blog will be what my blog readers will enjoy reading or benefit from when reading, and I want to keep my end of the bargain. For that reason, this blog will take a slightly different trajectory. I had wanted to focus on literature and the arts, but I will be sharing more career and finance and lifestyle posts that show how we as young adults can be better with our money, can travel more, can live more deeply and extensively. My innate desire has always been to uplift others and that’s exactly what I hope to do by sharing my life lessons and experiences while sharing and learning with all my blog readers as we go along – living, experimenting and learning.

The whole essence of blogging is to connect with others, and I would be unjust to not listen to what my blog readers have to say. And most of my blog readers are young adults who are working, or about to join the corporate life, who want to travel and read more and work well and wear nice clothes and be happy. So this past week since my last post I have been thinking of how to bring all these things together – my photography side hustle, my travel experiences, my two cents on career and finance, and while I still am working on the road-map to take, I know what direction I want us to go, and I would be delighted if you come with me on this blogging journey!

Thank you for being part of the journey thus far!

Close the door. Remove the dust. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.

Paulo Coelho

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Unless a women loves cooking or loves the concept of being a housewife, you should NOT expect your woman to know how to cook because simply because she’s a woman, rather than she’s a grown ass adult and needs to know for survival. Otherwise, you can get takeout every night or we gonna get some recipe books and learn how to cook together. Cus I ain’t with them stupid placements on gender roles bullshit. You not a baby, breastfeed yourself my dude tf.